Yeah, me too. "Bad Days" suck. Today has been challenging. Don't get me wrong, in the grand scheme of things, it wasn't terrible but I just feel like a bad person. I was in the middle of feeling sorry for myself... Why? Why does "bad stuff" have to happen, just when I feel like I am finally making progress.</p>
<h2>What makes for a bad day?</h2>
<p>For me it just really depends. I'm still trying to figure out how to "control" it most of the time. So some days are terrible and things are "ok" and other days are just "ok" and it feels like my world is falling apart. I know that sounds mellow dramatic but that is literally how it feels (something I am working on for sure).</p>
<h2>Make Every Day a Good Day</h2>
<p>A <a style="background-color: #ffffff; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size );" href="https://www.jeffreyholst.com/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">friend Jeff Holst </a>and one of the founders of <a style="background-color: #ffffff; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size );" href="https://www.facebook.com/lastlifeever/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">The Last Life Ever podcast, Facebook group, and book</a>, once told me that he has not had a bad day since he was 17 years old. I was flabbergasted... like how does one just do that. Willpower? Resilience? Alien DNA? I want to force all of the yucky out of my head and just make every day "good." . Heck, if I could do it when I thought I had cancer, why can't I do it EVERY DAY? Sheer willpower didn't do it. Sadly, I still have bad days. And then I realized what he had been trying to tell me all along... Even a "bad" day is still a "good" day.</p>https://youtu.be/rN4OKmWSclg
<h2>So You're Having a Bad Day, Now What?</h2>
<p>I was visiting with another friend who has had many of the same life experiences that I have... in other words, her childhood was messed up too. (Don't know what I am talking about...to visit my blog, <a style="font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Comic Sans; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size ); font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight ); background-color: #ffffff;" href="https://veronikaventures.com/life-love-laughter/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">click here</a>). Well, that's one way of putting it. Anyway, while talking about some "hard stuff" she told me something her therapist had said that really change her perspective..."Ok, so now what?"</p>
<h2>What Does That Mean?</h2>
<p>It doesn't mean like "ugh, so now what?"... it means "Ok, all of that stuff happened, there is nothing that can be done to change the past, what are you going to do now?" Your actions in the moment, your reaction to what has happened or is happening is often the only thing you CAN control.</p>
<h2>So, You Don't Have Bad Days?</h2>
<p>I wish I could say that was true... to be honest, I've had more than I would care to admit. However, I have been doing much better. Have you ever had one of those days were everything goes wrong and somehow you're still ok? Yeah, those days are few and far between; but I am getting better at it. Maybe the old adage is true... "Practice Makes Progress." And to be perfectly honest I've had days that shouldn't have been THAT bad... and I totally melted down. Those are extremely challenging. I'm working on those, lol. Heck, even between the filming of the live <a style="background-color: #ffffff;" href="https://youtu.be/EkbFwSJXBcg">video</a> I made about choosing joy and writing this blog... It was bad. Time to chose joy again.
The short story: I am a passionate writer and stay at home mom from Southern California. have recently lost 170 lbs and I am on a journey of self reflection and self discovery.
